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Thursday, November 17, 2016

A New Season



As a nanny, I hang out with a 2 year old all day and I love it. He's a great kid, we have a ton of fun and being able to work one on one with kids is a huge passion of mine. There's just one catch. I don't have the community of peers around me when I go to work. 


Some of you go work in a restaurant, some may work in an office, some in a school, regardless of your job, most of you end up having peers around you. Adults to have conversation with, even if it's just about something as boring as the weather. I don't have that. I get to teach a child about his colors and have conversations about Paw Patrol. I love it. But I'm also lonely. 

I come home desperate to talk to my husband. I want to have conversations and talk. And then there are the nights he has to work. Then I'm all alone at home by myself, just like I was during my nanny kid's nap time earlier that afternoon. Currently I only have one close female friend that lives in the same town as me, and she's busy. We're all busy aren't we? But I have seriously desired lately to have more female friends. Female friends that are also married, and ones that aren't; I want to have conversations. I want to talk about our Lord and I want to make dinner together. I desperately want and need a woman or women in my life that I can relate to, yet learn from our differences. 

Yet I work in a field that doesn't foster new friendships with anybody over the age of 5. What do I do? Is this desire for a friend I can spend time with in person too much to ask for these days?  I feel like all the women in my life and in my town already have a lot of friends they choose to spend time with and asking for them to squeeze me in just makes me feel like a burden. Or that it may not be genuine. How do I navigate all of these transitions in my life? I'm newly married, I'm newly graduated and newly employed. And I would really love to have a new friend.